Attentions towards the partner are those small gestures of love whose importance is often underestimated: they are simple and spontaneous gestures that do not fall into established patterns, but that give the actual measure of how important it is for the other person.
Often we are convinced, for convenience, that to show love and affection to the other is enough to remember important occasions, such as birthdays or anniversaries, thus conforming to the habits and mentality of most people. Opposite the "attentions are simple gestures and at no cost, that are not part of a sense of duty, but arise from a sincere interest in and concern for the well-being of the other.
To give a very trivial example, depending on how family life is organized and apart from work commitments, a gesture of attention towards the other person can be to recognize, at the end of a hard day, his or her tiredness and "lend a hand" without the other asking for it, or to be able to grasp his need to be heard not only through the auditory channel, but through a real closeness and participation.
There are many situations in the life of a couple that could be lived differently, relieving the tensions within it and making everyday life more rewarding and satisfying, making the other person feel important and loved and increasing his or her sense of gratitude towards life. What an individual needs most is to feel considered and recognized for his or her value and commitment.
We often believe that in order to improve our relationship as a couple we must use particular strategies, but in reality the demonstration of love towards the other is made up above all of the following small free gestures, but that require the ability and the will to free themselves from a look directed only towards themselves and their needs, widening their gaze to try to understand the state of mind of the other; leaving in this way a closed and rigid perspective and striving to "see" the person who is next to us and with whom we have decided to share a life project, with a more generous and welcoming gaze.
Article written by Dr. Noccioli Daniela, enrolled in the Register of Psychologists of Tuscany.
Attentions towards the partner are those small gestures of love whose importance is often underestimated: they are simple and spontaneous gestures that do not fall into established patterns, but that give the actual measure of how important it is for the other person.
Often we are convinced, for convenience, that to show love and affection to the other is enough to remember important occasions, such as birthdays or anniversaries, thus conforming to the habits and mentality of most people. Opposite the "attentions are simple gestures and at no cost, that are not part of a sense of duty, but arise from a sincere interest in and concern for the well-being of the other.
To give a very trivial example, depending on how family life is organized and apart from work commitments, a gesture of attention towards the other person can be to recognize, at the end of a hard day, his or her tiredness and "lend a hand" without the other asking for it, or to be able to grasp his need to be heard not only through the auditory channel, but through a real closeness and participation.
There are many situations in the life of a couple that could be lived differently, relieving the tensions within it and making everyday life more rewarding and satisfying, making the other person feel important and loved and increasing his or her sense of gratitude towards life. What an individual needs most is to feel considered and recognized for his or her value and commitment.
We often believe that in order to improve our relationship as a couple we must use particular strategies, but in reality the demonstration of love towards the other is made up above all of the following small free gestures, but that require the ability and the will to free themselves from a look directed only towards themselves and their needs, widening their gaze to try to understand the state of mind of the other; leaving in this way a closed and rigid perspective and striving to "see" the person who is next to us and with whom we have decided to share a life project, with a more generous and welcoming gaze.
Article written by Dr. Noccioli Daniela, enrolled in the Register of Psychologists of Tuscany.