The psychological age of people and their actions
Have you ever asked yourself: "Why don't some people behave the way you expect them to behave?? Why people act irrationally and illogically? And how to anticipate their actions?"
If we remember how a small child, an infant, is born, in the first two years he is faced with the task of learning to use his body.
First to crawl, then to walk..
Then the child has the task of learning to deal with his emotions, so that by the time he is seven, when he goes to school, he will not throw a tantrum on the floor if he has not bought a toy or someone did something wrong, does not comply with his wishes, so that the child could normally study and be in a group of peers.
From the age of 7 to 14, the child has the next challenge: he becomes a teenager, and he needs to learn the norms and rules of society. He needs to learn to follow rules, obey authority figures, obey, fit in with his peers.
That is the socialization of a child. And it would be good if by the age of 14 a teenager is still able to take on a leadership role in the company of peers like him.
After that, from age 14 to 21, is the stage of rapid development of the intellect. Ideally, especially during the college years, young men and women learn a lot, get new information, get smart, learn different patterns, learn to reason, think, plan. And plus at this age they develop their own values.
If a teenager was following someone else's rules and was afraid of being punished for not doing so, then for a young man his own values are already very important.
All this "world peace", Greenpeace, etc. - this is a manifestation of adolescence, a way to defend your values, to fight for them. And young men have a lot of communication. Remember how we used to argue about some important topics until morning, proving our case in the sense of values?
Then at age 21, it is assumed that the learning is over, and the person becomes an adult. He goes out into the world, works, makes a career, builds a business, creates a family, bears children, and by the age of 40 realizes himself as an adult.
After that, at the age of 40, the children have grown up, the house is built, the family function is over, and one can become a mature person who is fully concentrated on his or her own spiritual development, on some inner qualities. It's a rough scheme. Naturally, it is not very much followed.
Now try to remember people who are stuck at some age.
For example, take people who have never learned, like a full-fledged teenager, to comply with the norms, rules, demands of society, who remained at the level of a child, who remained in emotions.
I think you will probably remember the alcoholics under the store, or drug addicts, or people who during a domestic dispute took a knife, killed their drinking buddy and ended up in prison.
Or, perhaps, they will be some stupid people engaged in routine hard physical labor, with a completely undeveloped intellect, with unbuilt social connections. So these are the people who, even though they may be 40-50 years old, have remained psychological children.
And when you now think of all your acquaintances, take the following criterion: if in a situation of stress your acquaintance falls into emotions and acts on the basis of his emotions, he is a psychological child. He's still six or seven years old.
The next category of people are psychological teenagers (unfortunately, psychological children and teenagers make up about 80% of the population). They're still about 14 years old, even though they're older.
According to the passport they may be 35, 45, but in reality they are 14. And in any stressful situation they seek either, as they should, some norms and rules, or they ask the opinion of their elders, authorities, bosses.
If we take all psychological teenagers, they are mostly the people who care about what their neighbor says, what they think about them, and who care about being as good as anyone else while keeping their heads down.
These are the people who are crushed by social norms and rules, and when they were 15-20 years old and we were developing their intellect, they were engaged in communications, so to say. That is, they have been partying, perhaps they have been drinking, going out, doing something else, but they have not strained to develop intelligence. That's why they stay in that 14-year old age, without passing to the next category.
Some of these people are not so socially oppressed. About 5% of psychological teenagers are active teenagers, and they want very much to be cooler than others, to prove that they are cooler than everyone else. Naturally, in our society they think that the easiest way to prove it is with the trappings of success: buy a cool car, go somewhere cool, do something extreme..
And for such "proof" they are ready for any crime, they do not have their own values yet.
The only moral norms for them are: "get caught - don't get caught, put in jail - don't put in jail". They think, as a rule, that they are smarter than others, nobody can catch them, nobody can put them in jail.
Maybe you remember such people, those who by any fraud, non-payment of taxes, financial companies - anything earn a lot of money, buy a cool car, and on the third pole on the ring road this car ends up together with its owner.
Very often these people do somehow make a million dollars, as they call it, but then they lose that million quickly.
Either they get caught by other crooks, or it's confiscation, or it's some very unsuccessful investment... The western version often tells how you make a million, go bankrupt, make another one, go bankrupt, and only after 3-4-5 bankruptcies people get a grown-up business. But as long as they were psychological teenagers, this is a normal scheme for so-called "cool teenagers", for active teenagers.
The next category of people who have not yet become adults, about 12 percent of the population, are psychological adolescents.
If you think now of those people who talk very, very much, talk very clever words, but never take action, that's them.
In a situation of stress, the young man will start to reason, to gather meetings, to plan, but will not act at all, or will do it when it will be too late.
There are usually a lot of such psychological teenagers in all sorts of political parties, unsuccessful like the opposition, which never comes to power.
Quite a lot of them are in the institute hangouts, there are a lot of young men among teachers. Not much money, but how they have it all... Many young men write PhD theses, go to graduate school.
So any people who argue a lot, write clever texts, give long instructions, confer endlessly, say clever words - most likely, they are psychological youths. The main characteristic of psychological young men is that they are very smart, but they cannot translate their knowledge and their information into real results, into real actions.
And the only sensible way for these psychological youngsters to make a lot of money is if you find someone, either an adult or a cool teenager, who will pay them a lot for their brains. For example, good programmers often manage to make money that way.
And only the next level, about 7% of the population... that is, it turns out that 92% of the population are not adults, although in their passport may be written 30 years, 40 years, 50 years.
Only 7% of population we can call adults - people who can act fast, accurately, effectively. And these actions lead to the right result.
The remaining one percent are mature, but you and I are probably too young to think about that.
The psychological age of people and their actions
Have you ever asked yourself: "Why don't some people behave the way you expect them to behave?? Why people act irrationally and illogically? And how to anticipate their actions?"
If we remember how a small child, an infant, is born, in the first two years he is faced with the task of learning to use his body.
First to crawl, then to walk..
Then the child has the task of learning to deal with his emotions, so that by the time he is seven, when he goes to school, he will not throw a tantrum on the floor if he has not bought a toy or someone did something wrong, does not comply with his wishes, so that the child could normally study and be in a group of peers.
From the age of 7 to 14, the child has the next challenge: he becomes a teenager, and he needs to learn the norms and rules of society. He needs to learn to follow rules, obey authority figures, obey, fit in with his peers.
That is the socialization of a child. And it would be good if by the age of 14 a teenager is still able to take on a leadership role in the company of peers like him.
After that, from age 14 to 21, is the stage of rapid development of the intellect. Ideally, especially during the college years, young men and women learn a lot, get new information, get smart, learn different patterns, learn to reason, think, plan. And plus at this age they develop their own values.
If a teenager was following someone else's rules and was afraid of being punished for not doing so, then for a young man his own values are already very important.
All this "world peace", Greenpeace, etc. - this is a manifestation of adolescence, a way to defend your values, to fight for them. And young men have a lot of communication. Remember how we used to argue about some important topics until morning, proving our case in the sense of values?
Then at age 21, it is assumed that the learning is over, and the person becomes an adult. He goes out into the world, works, makes a career, builds a business, creates a family, bears children, and by the age of 40 realizes himself as an adult.
After that, at the age of 40, the children have grown up, the house is built, the family function is over, and one can become a mature person who is fully concentrated on his or her own spiritual development, on some inner qualities. It's a rough scheme. Naturally, it is not very much followed.
Now try to remember people who are stuck at some age.
For example, take people who have never learned, like a full-fledged teenager, to comply with the norms, rules, demands of society, who remained at the level of a child, who remained in emotions.
I think you will probably remember the alcoholics under the store, or drug addicts, or people who during a domestic dispute took a knife, killed their drinking buddy and ended up in prison.
Or, perhaps, they will be some stupid people engaged in routine hard physical labor, with a completely undeveloped intellect, with unbuilt social connections. So these are the people who, even though they may be 40-50 years old, have remained psychological children.
And when you now think of all your acquaintances, take the following criterion: if in a situation of stress your acquaintance falls into emotions and acts on the basis of his emotions, he is a psychological child. He's still six or seven years old.
The next category of people are psychological teenagers (unfortunately, psychological children and teenagers make up about 80% of the population). They're still about 14 years old, even though they're older.
According to the passport they may be 35, 45, but in reality they are 14. And in any stressful situation they seek either, as they should, some norms and rules, or they ask the opinion of their elders, authorities, bosses.
If we take all psychological teenagers, they are mostly the people who care about what their neighbor says, what they think about them, and who care about being as good as anyone else while keeping their heads down.
These are the people who are crushed by social norms and rules, and when they were 15-20 years old and we were developing their intellect, they were engaged in communications, so to say. That is, they have been partying, perhaps they have been drinking, going out, doing something else, but they have not strained to develop intelligence. That's why they stay in that 14-year old age, without passing to the next category.
Some of these people are not so socially oppressed. About 5% of psychological teenagers are active teenagers, and they want very much to be cooler than others, to prove that they are cooler than everyone else. Naturally, in our society they think that the easiest way to prove it is with the trappings of success: buy a cool car, go somewhere cool, do something extreme..
And for such "proof" they are ready for any crime, they do not have their own values yet.
The only moral norms for them are: "get caught - don't get caught, put in jail - don't put in jail". They think, as a rule, that they are smarter than others, nobody can catch them, nobody can put them in jail.
Maybe you remember such people, those who by any fraud, non-payment of taxes, financial companies - anything earn a lot of money, buy a cool car, and on the third pole on the ring road this car ends up together with its owner.
Very often these people do somehow make a million dollars, as they call it, but then they lose that million quickly.
Either they get caught by other crooks, or it's confiscation, or it's some very unsuccessful investment... The western version often tells how you make a million, go bankrupt, make another one, go bankrupt, and only after 3-4-5 bankruptcies people get a grown-up business. But as long as they were psychological teenagers, this is a normal scheme for so-called "cool teenagers", for active teenagers.
The next category of people who have not yet become adults, about 12 percent of the population, are psychological adolescents.
If you think now of those people who talk very, very much, talk very clever words, but never take action, that's them.
In a situation of stress, the young man will start to reason, to gather meetings, to plan, but will not act at all, or will do it when it will be too late.
There are usually a lot of such psychological teenagers in all sorts of political parties, unsuccessful like the opposition, which never comes to power.
Quite a lot of them are in the institute hangouts, there are a lot of young men among teachers. Not much money, but how they have it all... Many young men write PhD theses, go to graduate school.
So any people who argue a lot, write clever texts, give long instructions, confer endlessly, say clever words - most likely, they are psychological youths. The main characteristic of psychological young men is that they are very smart, but they cannot translate their knowledge and their information into real results, into real actions.
And the only sensible way for these psychological youngsters to make a lot of money is if you find someone, either an adult or a cool teenager, who will pay them a lot for their brains. For example, good programmers often manage to make money that way.
And only the next level, about 7% of the population... that is, it turns out that 92% of the population are not adults, although in their passport may be written 30 years, 40 years, 50 years.
Only 7% of population we can call adults - people who can act fast, accurately, effectively. And these actions lead to the right result.
The remaining one percent are mature, but you and I are probably too young to think about that.